🌼 Real-Life Parenting Moments That Shape Us
There’s something deeply humbling about being reminded of your own lessons — especially by the very child you’re trying to teach.
It happened one Sunday morning. We were running late for church, and the house felt like a storm had passed through. Breakfast wasn’t finished, someone’s shoes had mysteriously vanished, and I was juggling bags, snacks, and the mental to-do list of a parent who’s already had enough — and it wasn’t even 9AM.
My daughter, then about seven, was happily twirling in front of the door, lost in the sparkle of her dress. Meanwhile, my frustration hit its peak.
“Come on! Let’s go! You’re making us late!”
I didn’t yell — but the tension in my voice said it all.
Her eyes met mine without panic. Then, with calm curiosity, she asked a question. a soft question that stopped me cold:
“Mummy… are you feeling stressed?”
💡 The Power of One Small Question
I froze.
Not because she was wrong. She was absolutely right.
But because her words reflected something bigger: emotional intelligence in action.
She noticed my emotion. She named it. And she responded with empathy instead of defensiveness or fear.
She didn’t yell back. She didn’t melt down. She met my frustration with understanding.
And it wasn’t by chance. It was the result of what we’d been practicing all along:
talking about feelings, naming emotions, building awareness, and creating safe space for even the hardest moments.
In that second, I wasn’t the teacher. She was.
💛 What Is Emotional Intelligence Anyway?
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to:
- Recognize and name your own feelings
- Understand and relate to the feelings of others
- Respond to emotions in healthy, respectful ways
And here’s the truth:
Children aren’t born with these skills — they learn them. Kids are always watching. As a result, they learn from what we model.
From us. Through repetition, modeling, and safe emotional connection.
🌈 5 Ways to Help Kids Build Emotional Intelligence
If you’re on a journey to raise emotionally aware children, here are five things that work beautifully (and yes — they take time, patience, and presence):
5 Ways to Teach Kids to Manage Big Emotions
1. Name Your Own Emotions Out Loud
For example, Instead of hiding your feelings, model healthy emotional expression. Try saying:
“I’m feeling overwhelmed right now. I need a few minutes to breathe.”
This shows your child it’s okay to have emotions — and to manage them gently.
2. Use Feeling Words Regularly
Expand your child’s emotional vocabulary. Move beyond happy/sad/mad. Try:
- Frustrated
- Disappointed
- Embarrassed
- Overwhelmed
- Proud
You can even make a feelings chart together!
3. Validate Before Correcting
Validation doesn’t mean agreement — it means acknowledgement.
“I see you’re really upset. That makes sense — you were looking forward to playing with that toy.”
As a result, Once they feel seen, they’re more open to learning better responses.
4. Create a Calm-Down Ritual
Instead of “Go to your room!” try:
“Let’s take a break in your calm corner. Would you like to use your breathing buddy or read a book?”
Having a calm-down space (with tools, visuals, and comfort items) gives them something to do when emotions feel too big. Dwnlod it FREE here
5. Celebrate Emotional Wins (Big or Small)
Did your child take a deep breath instead of hitting?
Say:
“I saw how you handled that. You stopped, you breathed, and you asked for help. That was amazing.”
Affirmation builds confidence and encourages self-regulation.
What That Sunday Morning Taught Me
My daughter’s gentle question — “Are you feeling stressed?” — reminded me of something powerful:
Our children are absorbing everything.
They may not always “listen” in the moment, but they’re always watching.
How we respond to our own emotions teaches them how to handle theirs.
So now, even in the chaos, I try to pause.
Breathe.
And remember: I’m not just raising a child — I’m raising a human who feels deeply, who notices, who connects.
And sometimes… they remind me of the very lessons I’m trying to teach.
📌 Final Thoughts
Parenting with emotional intelligence isn’t about perfection — it’s about presence.
It’s about slowing down enough to connect, even in the messy moments.
You’re not just managing behavior — you’re shaping hearts, minds, and future relationships.
So keep showing up. Keep modeling.
You’re doing powerful work.
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What has your child taught you about emotions? I’d love to hear your story — share in the comments below.
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